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Create a Heart Chart For Attracting the Love of Your Life

A Girl Holding a Painted Rock in Nature With a Heart and Glitter Painted on It
For probably the first time ever, I am being open and vulnerable about my lack of a love life.  I've been single for a very long time and while most of the time I've been okay with it, I'm ready to find love again.  Thus, I've created a heart chart for attracting the love of my life!

To design your own heart chart, stick around as I'll be revealing how to do it at the end of this post.  I discovered how to do this years ago from the now out of print Law of Attraction magazine.

All I can say is, it really works!  It worked the first time I used it, it's just that at the time my picker was off.  I didn't want to make another heart chart until I knew I was ready to let someone into my life again in a romantic way.

Just to be clear, there is a specific way to make a heart chart and this isn't it.  I'll be following my heart and using the qualities I'm looking for in a husband to make my chart.

I'm at a point in my life where I'm not looking to date.  I'm looking for a serious relationship.  A partnership.  A marriage and a husband.

I'm looking for true love.  The kind they write about in romance novels.  I know, I know.  The cynical side of me wonders if true love exists but like everything else in the ether, it exists if you believe it does.  It exists even if you don't believe.

Sometimes love exists to prove to the cynical at heart that it's real.  In fact, I'm counting on this.  Prove me wrong, universe!  I'd rather true love, soulmates, twin flames, all of it, to be as real as you and me.  Don't you?

Here's to hoping!

Heart Chart: Qualities in a Husband I'm Looking For

  • Someone I don't have to fight with.  I'm not saying we can't have disagreements, it's human nature to disagree from time to time.  I want a relationship that is cohesive and mostly peaceful.  I've had so many relationships where all me and my partner would do is fight.  It's toxic and unhealthy.  I want a husband, not someone I have to get in the ring with.
  • I want a healthy relationship.  I know this should go without saying, but how many of us have been in a toxic relationship at some point?  Almost all of us would have to raise our hand.  Those were learning lessons for us, but it's time to evolve from that type of romantic relationship.  
  • An outdoorsy type man.  I have a confession to make: I'm having a romantic love affair with nature.  Nature is my soulmate.  So, if a guy is going to get along with me, he's going to have to get along with my soulmate.  I don't know, what could be more romantic than a ruggedly handsome guy that can cut wood and build a fire?  Not much, that's what.
  • A passionate lover.  Okay, this is going to get a little personal, but in the past, I've been with guys where they have turned the sex into something beyond perverted.  I'm not talking trying new positions and pillow talk.  I'm talking turning sex into something dirty and using my body to fulfill some kind of sick, twisted fantasy. I won't go into details, but I want a guy that's good in bed without being a weirdo pervert.  Is that too much to ask?
  • He's my best friend.  I want a husband who is not just my lover, but my best friend.  A best friend is someone who still thinks you are beautiful inside and out in spite of knowing all your dark secrets.  He's someone you can tell anything to and he's not going to judge you.  He also won't use those flaws and secrets against you later in an argument.  
  • I want an Instagram Husband.  Haha.  An Instagram husband is when your man is willing to take all your pictures of all your best sides and outfits.  He's also willing to patiently put up with you while you take a photograph of your meal while you're out for croissants and coffee on a Sunday morning.  He's that guy.  I like that guy.  It means he's willing to do anything for you.  Bonus points if he edits your pictures too!  That's real love right there.
  • He tells me I'm beautiful every single day.  A guy who will tell you how lovely you are on a daily basis is a keeper if you ask me!
  • A friend to the animals.  A guy who hunts kills and mounts animals is a deal breaker for me.  I don't expect him to be a vegan or anything, maybe a vegetarian, but he's kind to animals and all of nature.
  • He only has eyes for me.  I know men will find other women attractive.  That's a given.  I don't take issue with that.  I do take issue with the guy I marry having wandering eyes.  That's not okay.  I want a guy who's fully into me and thinks I'm the cat's meow.
  • A dude who will get along with my family.  This is highly important to me.  I'm very family oriented and loyal.  I want a guy who would consider my family his and vice versa.
  • He's ruggedly handsome.  I don't want to pinpoint looks exactly, because looks aren't everything.  I do have a general look I'm attracted to and that's the ruggedly handsome type.  I like beards and dark curly hair on a guy, but again, an attraction is a weird thing.  I guess I'll know what I like when I see it.  
  • A guy I can talk to about anything.  I have been with so many strong, silent types and I don't feel like getting a grunt of acknowledgment.  I want someone I can talk to, have deep, meaningful discussions with well into the night.  I don't feel like being a mind reader.
  • He's my protector.  I find it really sexy when a guy is big and strong enough to stick up for me and be my protector.  I'm not saying he has to be violent and go around punching every person that says something mean to me, but a guy who would definitely defend my honor.
  • I want a guy to go on adventures with.  One of my dreams is to get a vintage travel trailer and travel the United States and Canada in it.  My kids are grown now, so I'm free to do this.  Also, a guy who likes to go on mini adventures too, such a romantic weekend getaway!
  • He's a hopeless romantic.  I want a guy who will keep the home fires burning long after the honeymoon phase is over.  A man that will put effort into igniting the spark in our relationship is the man of my dreams.  I like romantic gestures and I love to be treated like a lady.  I guess I'm old-fashioned that way.
  • I want a good man.  Sure, this should go without saying, but it has to be said in my case.  My first husband, the father of my children, was an abuser.  I suffered both emotional abuse and domestic violence.  I ended up leaving him when I turned thirty and filing for divorce.  My second serious relationship was full of fighting and gaslighting.  A good man would never put his hands on a woman.  He'd never control me or gaslight me.  
  • He's my knight in shining armor.  I don't feel bad saying that I want a guy who can be supportive of me in all ways, including financially.  That doesn't mean I can't have financial independence or a separate bank account if I wanted to.  It just means he doesn't have a problem taking care of me and that he has the means to do it.  I don't think it sets feminism back a hundred years to want a husband that takes care of me and rescues me when I need him to.  As long as I have the independence and freedom to be myself and make my own money too, then I'm happy with this kind of arrangement.
  • A man that is supportive of my business.  He can just be my Instagram husband and take pictures of me.  After all, I am sick of taking selfies.  Or, he can be my business partner or play a role in my business.  I've seen so many bloggers include their husband is their business ventures and I wouldn't mind being one of them.
  • He's loyal.  A guy that is loyal is a man after my own heart.  I want someone who is fierce and loyal to me and the people he cares about.
  • A guy who likes cooking.  One good thing about my last serious boyfriend was his cooking.  A guy who can cook is life!  A guy who actually enjoys cooking is love sweet love.
  • He makes me laugh.  I've often said that I would marry Seth Rogan just because he would make me laugh all the time.  I want a guy who is funny, always makes me smile, makes me laugh, and we have fun together.
  • A man who's in good shape.  I'm not saying he has to be a muscle man who hits the gym every day, but a guy who takes care of himself is incredibly hot and sexy.  Bonus points if he's a yogi!
  • He doesn't smoke.  I don't mind if a guy smokes weed once a while, but being a cigarette smoker is no Bueno to me.  I want him to live a long, healthy life!
  • A guy that plays guitar and can sing.  Okay, this isn't a deal breaker or anything but a guy who can sing and plays the guitar would be a huge brownie point for me.  I'm not saying he has to be a rock star or anything, but he's musically inclined and artistic.  It would be perfect because I'd like to get out of my shell more and go to intimate concerts at restaurants and clubs.  
  • He eats healthy.  I want a guy who is at least a vegetarian and generally eats pretty healthy and is willing to try new things.  A guy who won't scoff at going to a raw vegan restaurant for a romantic dinner.
  • A non-alcoholic, please!  Ugh.  I married a drug addict and alcoholic and dated an alcoholic.  It's time to break those patterns.  I want a guy who likes to have a drink every now and then but knows his limits and can control himself.  A glass of wine at dinner is okay, that type of thing, but not someone who arranges their whole life around going to the bar.  
  • He's openly spiritual.  I'm a very spiritual, magical person and I'm open about it.  I believe in the father, the son, and the holy spirit and I believe in other deities, fairies, and angels too.  I know they exist.  I need a guy who is equally yolked to me.  
  • A man who will dance with me.  I know it sounds silly, but I want a guy who will slow dance with me when the mood strikes.  He doesn't have to be the best dancer either, just someone who likes to have fun and dance.
  • He will go wherever I go.  I plan on moving to a cabin in the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina.  My kids will come and visit and we'll go and visit them.  A guy who always makes them feel included and welcome is the best guy for me!
  • A guy who is sure of himself.  He's confident in us and knows what he wants.  The kind of guy who is ready to settle down and get married and will be loyal to that commitment.  He doesn't offer up mixed messages and he's not afraid to fall in love and spend the rest of his life with me.  
That's my heart chart for attracting the love of my life, my dream guy.  I may update it from time to time if more qualities pop into my head.  What do you think?  Are you ready to make your own heart chart?

This has a 98% success rate!  Even if you're already married or in a relationship, you can design a heart chart to bring out the qualities you want in your husband or mate.  

For single ladies (or men) like myself, you write down the qualities and values of the man you'd like to meet and marry.  It's important to note that sometimes we get what we want and have to clarify a new & improved heart chart.  

How to Make a Heart Chart

To make a heart chart, you take a piece of paper and draw a heart in the center of the paper and write husband, soulmate, twin flame, whatever.  Then, use line branches to write the qualities and values that your potential soulmate will have.  You can even use some of mine if they suit you!

If you'd rather do it on your blog, simply use a photograph with a heart and start listing what you want in your dream man!  Be sure to leave me a link in the comments so I can see how it went for you.  It's easy and it's kinda fun to do.

It makes you think hard about what you want and don't want.  When listing things you don't want, be careful how you phrase it, as the law of attraction can pick up the wrong cue.  

What's next?  Place your heart chart in your purse or on a bedside table in your bedroom with a bouquet of flowers and two rose quartz crystals (this will give it a romantic boost) and let it go.  

Forget about it until it happens.  Whip the paper out once you meet him (or her) to see how it matches up.  You'll be shocked and amazed by how accurate the heart chart is!
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