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Love Magic: The Qualities I'm Looking For in a Man

Love spell with wildflowers in bloom in ethereal sunlight through the hiking trail
I don't talk about it all the time but I've been open about the fact that I'm searching for someone to love.  In this post, I want to talk about love magic and the qualities I'm looking for in a man!

In some ways, I hate the term searching because it implies that I'm on the hunt or something.  When in reality, that's not at all how I operate.  I'm shy, quiet, and still working on being comfortable in my own skin.  So, yeah, not much of a huntress.

Regardless of all that, I do want love.  I want someone to love me and I want to love him back.  It's just that sometimes I don't really know where to start.

I'm not the kind of woman that goes clubbing or hangs out in bars.  I'm the type of woman who keeps plants for pets, goes on daily hiking adventures, and reads tons of books.  So, I'm pretty sure that if I do meet someone it's going to be on the trail or maybe at the grocery store.

Whatever the case may be, I'm trying to open my heart again.  If you are in the same boat, you might like to read about, How to Work With Archangel Chamuel to Open the Heart Chakra With Romance Angels.

With the opening of my heart comes listing out the qualities that I want to seek to find in a partner.  In the past, I created a heart chart for attracting the love of my life.  You can too!

I honestly enjoyed making it at the time but find myself wanting to dig deeper into my journey for a soulmate.  I want the qualities he possesses to be more than just surface level.  I want a man who is a complex human being, much like myself.

For example, sure, it would be cool to have an Instagram husband to take my pictures.  However, that's not exactly a deal-breaker for me.  More like something fun and imaginative to think about.

I guess what I'm saying is that I want more than that.  I want something real.  I want to look beyond the surface to create a magic love spell of qualities that I desire in a man.

If you are single and looking for a solid relationship too, you might enjoy reading, Working With Archangel Raphael to Find True Love and Your Twinflame.  Raphael is a love and romance angel who works closely to bring matches together.

I've recently decided, why be shy about it?  Sometimes you have to make a bold move and trust your instincts.  That's why I'll be sharing my adventures in love with my readers from time to time since relationships are a huge part of living.

I want to stop being afraid and put myself out there.  It's more like I'm signaling to the universe that I'm ready for love, I'm open to it.  I figure this is a good start.

Once upon a time, a long, long time ago, my niece told me that I should create a section on my blog for calling in my soulmate.  At the time I knew it was good advice but also knew I wasn't ready.  I'm ready now!

I'm ready to start somewhere with creating a love life.  A first date.  Holding hands.  A first kiss.  Whatever.  I'm just going to see where my love journey takes me.

I like to use this space as a nature journal, as a place to share my spiritual insights, etcetera, etcetera.  I also like to use this space for my personal thoughts and hopes and dreams.  I'm an introvert at heart, so it's my way of letting people into my little corner of the world.

I want people to see my heart.  I wish I could tell you that I'm perfect all the time and that I have a heart of gold.  However, I'm a deeply flawed human with my own set of insecurities.

Deep-down, I'm a genuine person too.  I mean well.  I'm hoping my readers will see it and take notice and I wouldn't mind the right guy coming along and seeing it too.

It's going to take a guy that will love me in spite of all my flaws.  For me, I've got to stop having this knight on a white horse fantasy about guys.  I want a man that is a real man, with his own set of personal flaws because he's human and that's okay.

From the time we are little girls, we are told that we'll grow up and get married and that it will be a fairytale happily ever after.  The reality of it is that relationships, merging two lives together as one, is not without its problems.

So, no, I'm not settling, but I'm also not going to expect a perfect guy to come along, sweep me off my feet, and save the day.  What I want is real love.  The kind of love that can withstand anything.

I know that there have been a couple things stuck in my head for what seems like forever when it comes to love.  One, my dad telling everyone that he feels sorry for the man that gets with me because I'm a lot of work.  Two, my ex-husband telling me that I would never find anyone as a single woman with three daughters.

Those are the things that stick with you.  I realize now that just because they said that doesn't mean it has to be true.  Especially since I'm in a good place in my life for becoming a pairing.

I've done the work on myself and I have to accept that I'll always be a work in progress.  Just because I had issues in the past, doesn't mean that I don't deserve love.

I am worthy and deserving of love, just as much as anybody.  So, I'm in a place in my life now where I'm ready to tune out the voices of my father and ex-husband.  I'm ready for true love in whatever person and form it comes in.
A flowering shrb with pink and orange wildflowers in bloom n Hammock Park of Dunedin, Florida on San Mateo Drive

Love Magic: The Qualities I'm Looking For in a Man

What am I looking for in a man?  What qualities stand out to me?  I've had a lot of time to really evaluate what kind of relationship I'd like to have with the right guy and it all starts with fun.

I want someone that I can have fun with.  A playful romance of the tallest order.  With fun usually comes laughter and I love it when a guy can make me laugh.

I mean, I don't have a crush on Seth Rogan for nothing.  I mean, he's cute and all, but it's his sense of humor that rocks my world.

My whole life, I've had a lot of guy friends.  I've had a few female friends along the way, but I've always felt most comfortable hanging out with the guys.

Because of this, as well as having a brother too, I have a dirty, sometimes dark sense of humor.  I like to be playful and have fun.  A guy that can bring laughter to my life is a guy after my own heart.

I'm not saying he has to be comedian level or anything.  Just someone to have good times and lots of laughter with.

I also want a man that makes me feel safe.  A guy that at the end of a long, hard day would just wrap me in his arms and cuddle me.  A man with deep strength.

Someone who gets me.  I'm kind of a weirdo in a good way.  Not everyone gets me though.  Sometimes, even my own family doesn't understand me.

I'm a woman who talks to her plants, doesn't keep a microwave in her home, and who would rather spend time in nature than at the mall shopping.  A guy who would be cool with a down-to-earth type of woman is the man for me.

Ideally, I'd really love a man that is also my best friend too.  I'm always reading about people being married to their best friend, and that's what I want.

If you marry your best friend then you really have the whole package.  I have dated many taciturn fellas that don't know how to communicate or talk to me.  I'm done with men like that.

It's not fun for a woman to feel like she's doing something wrong all the time.  I'm not a mind reader so I prefer a guy who knows how to carry on a conversation.

I feel like so many of the world's problems could be resolved if people knew how to communicate.  The same goes for romantic relationships too.

Ideally, I'm also looking for someone who's ready to settle down.  I'm in a place in my life where I don't have time for games.  I'm in the prime of my life and I'm looking for a grounded kind of love.

I'm at this stage where I want someone who knows what he wants and goes after it.  It's nice that guys might look my way, but I like a guy who's confident and self-assured and is brave enough to approach me.

I'm a take-charge kind of girl in most other areas of my life.  When it comes to love and romance, I want the guy to ask me out.  To me, confidence is sexy!

As far as qualities go, from deep within, it would be great to meet someone who is loyal.  I don't care if he has a past history of making mistakes in relationships.  I have those too.  It's more about how loyal and true he is now, with me by his side.

Last but not least, I'd mesh really well with a man who loves the great outdoors as much as I do.  A guy who will take me camping, hiking, and who likes to see places around the United States would be perfect for me.

Granted, this one is kind of a surface value, but being that we should probably have something in common, I don't think wanting a guy who is into outdoor adventures is too much to ask for.  We need to be equally yolked in some ways.

At the end of the day, I'm not looking for the perfect man or my dream guy.  In fact, that may be the opposite of what I want.  I just want us to mesh well together and for our lives to flow.

I'm looking to settle down eventually and build a life with someone who's got my back.  Up until now, my whole life has been about raising daughters and family.  Which are all great things, of course.

It's just that I'm an empty nester now.  The world is my oyster.  I want to go see things and do things with someone I love.

I'm ready to be in a couple.  I'm ready to have my own life and to share it with someone who has a lot of similar values and traits.  I've already kissed a few frogs along the way.  I want the modern-day fairytale romance in nature!

In the meantime, get to know me better by reading, My Quest For True Love: Inspired by the Movie Practical Magic.  By the way, it's my all-time favorite movie!
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